Hello TTT Ladies,
“Obligation Justification, Sex, Money”
Stephanie has left Rome, but these are issues that still linger in the reality of this journey.
I am obligated to compromise in a marriage or relationship, but when I choose what I compromise does that mean I made a sacrifice?
Stephanie and I are walking having a good time talking about compromise, these are her words in which she eloquently states, “Compromise is readily confused with give and take. It is easy to give up what doesn’t matter and not so easy to accept what does. Give and take is the healthy trade of a human relationship. Compromise is the demand that we give up what matters most, the sacrifice of our hearts desires” her view now on compromise since being married is “And now having stood at the altar of a sacred union and vowed to honor and be honored as sovereign being. I have learned that compromise is the acceptable and petty face of a volcanic behemoth that is in reality obligation: snow to simmering mountains. I just looked at her in amazement, where is all of this coming from? I suggested that we sit down and take a breather because we need to “talk “about this I refuse to get one more blister on my feet until I can understand in my opinion why she is so bitter.
TTT ladies I need your help this is 911
Do you think that Stephanie expectations of a relationship are unrealistic? after all she is married to a human being in this case a man. Did she assume that when she married her husband that he felt the same way? I know when the honey moon is over, the marriage is “real” but the foundation should not change. I know from my being married once myself, suffered the “culture shock” that I just knew we were” tracking” when it comes to compromise. I just gave her a hug and simply told her, “It Takes One To Know One” I am not walking with you to dissect every thought and comment, but I need this journey because I realize that I took some short cuts. This is about me, just as much as it is about you.
TTT ladies Stephanie like most women loves unconscionably and unconditionally sometimes to the point that WE ignore and make a decision to marry or have a relationship with a man based on potential. Our actions speak louder than we words, because we are ones that lack maturity if we are going to star in the leading role and a get a Emmy for “denial”
I know I took a chance telling Stephanie how I honestly feel, we are both strong and opinionated women that think very highly of ourselves. We act on being proactive with purpose. She is an excellent listener that makes her a successful author. We always end on a positive note and these are the words of wisdom she articulated to me.
” I am the love of my life. This thought softens me every time. It brings me home, every time. It gives me courage every time. Energy pours into my body, rising with evening tide. My spirits lift. Loneliness begone! Let the journey continue.