Hello TTT Ladies,
Stephanie gets a text from her husband, he says he is feeling sad, she texted him back “Stay Soft” “Let it wash through the rain, be cozy be true and I will walk for you today” I am confused now, he is the main reason we are on this journey. I can’t believe that she wants to get romantic, that along makes my blisters hurt again. What is wrong with this woman? When we left for London this was a done deal with her husband, and as we head to Podine a small town she tells me ” I told him I walk for him today because I knew it would please him” Now she is mad with herself because she feels obligated.
TTT ladies why would she tell him that? This is the one time I am grateful that I am single.
Stephanie painfully misses her husband, yes they do have marriage problems, but this is her husband. She misses his touch ,his laughter waking up in arms. Stephanie has never stopped loving her husband. The problem is that she doesn’t want to, but her desires for always win. Does she think she can walk out her feelings for him? I am a little amused that she thinks she can accept financial support and still not be obligated and we know how she feels about that, ” If I don’t do Y then he can’t do X”
TTT Ladies this 911 , I need your help she is all over the place, remembering his soft longer tender kisses, that always leads to a prelude to more. She gives in and takes a risk to receive his love by email she has opened her self up again, because she really wants her marriage to work. I am thinking she really does love this man, this is surreal. She embraces her husband with love she secured in her heart.
Well that did not last long he emails her that his sadness has passed and does not want to write an email “that there is nothing to do but me” she is furious, she let him her in heart. Well TTT Ladies this is the ‘back and forth’ that goes on between marriage and relationships, I call it the “I hate you don’t leave me stage” all of us have been down this road. I can only be supportive and pray that she finds some stability in her confusion. She does realize that she can’s shoulder his burdens, so she decided she will walk for him, but she will not talk to him. Sounds like a plan to me.
TTT Ladies I admire her for having the courage answer her fears.
Stephanie and I pick up our pack back’s but before we leave she says ” I am in territory previously unknown to me and for this I give thanks, for I am more compassionate for have wandred into this shadowy land briefed now on the incomprehensible choices women make most obviously to stay. I stand among the legions of women who have surrendered their sovereignty in return for their keep; I am among the initiated, the ones who please when we are not pleasing”
I look at her and I said “all is fair in love and war”
TTT Ladies what advice would you give to Stephanie at this point in her life?